Do Your Children Feel Loved?

Do your children feel loved?

One of the greatest responsibilities of a parent is to ensure your children feel loved and happy.

While every parent knows that kids don’t always listen, most parents don’t realize the kids are always watching. You can use this to help increase your child’s happiness by remembering that what you do is often more important than what you say.

Kids are especially sensitive to noticing when a parent chooses a person or activity over the child.  They may think they are less important than that.  When you’re too busy for them, they can easily begin to feel that they’re not worthy of your attention. They can turn these feelings into self-truths and self-rules.

Apply these ideas in your household to help your child feel secure, loved, and happy:

   1)   Let them know you’re genuinely excited to see them.

When you see them for the first time in the morning and after school, ensure they know just how happy you are to see them.  Use their name (everybody likes that) and show genuine pleasure.

    Think about how happy you would be if the person you love the most did the same for you.  One of the reasons we love pets so much is that they always are so happy to see us.

   2)   Make sure they know that your work is less important than they are.

Most kids are constantly feel like they are being put off because of work or chores.  We as adults know that they are.  Explain in age appropriate language, why work is important.  We work so they can have the food and things they need.  But be careful of scheduling errands and activities ahead of your children.  Ask for their help and participation so they are included in the family work.  Balance the family’s work like grocery shopping, with family time, where you enjoy each other.  This technique shows them how important they are.

   3)  Don’t expect the learning to begin and end at school.  Teach your kids at home.

Don’t assume that everything they need to learn they are learning sufficiently outside the home.  After all, no one is ever going to have the same values and knowledge as you.  Plus there are good teachers and not so good teachers, just like every other profession.  Help your child with their schoolwork and teach the extras about life and values you want them to learn.

   

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Consider all the things you wish you had known when you were a young adult heading out into the world.  Those things would be a great start.

   4)  Model good behavior.

Children assume that the appropriate way to handle a situation is the exact way their parents would.   Are you behaving like a strong, patient, persistent person?  How successful and happy will your children be if they handle challenges the same way that you do?  Remember, they’re always watching and copying.

   5)   Let the kids make a few of the rules around the house.

People naturally resist and rebel when they feel like they don’t have any control.  It can be something small.  Perhaps they can choose which days to do their household chores each week.  Or they can choose what’s for dinner or what clothes to wear the next day (from choices that you give them) . Simple things like this really help.

   6)  Limit the amount of screen time.

It’s easy to let the TV entertain the kids when you’re busy or frustrated.  But most parents instinctively know that their kids watch too much TV.  As kids get older, cell phones, the Internet, and tablets become an issue.  Your children must be fluent in technology because that’s the world they will live and work in, but offset that with plenty of outdoor play time.  Unconstructed play, helps the imagination and thinking skils.  It also works out that energy that kids naturally have.  Especially if your child is a high energy kid, they need to be out moving those muscles.  Your child and your pet are better behaved when they get enough exercise.

   Many studies have shown that people that use technology the most tend to suffer from loneliness at a greater rate than those that use it less.

 

So have fun with your kids . Teach them everything you think they need to know to be independent in the world one day and be a good example.  Ensure they feel loved and a part of the team that is your family.  Simply doing your very best is a great place to start.

 

Do your children feel loved?

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About the Author Angie J. Hernandez, C.Ht.

A graduate of the Hypnosis Motivation Institute, Angie J. Hernandez, C.Ht., has her private practice in Milford, Indiana. She is certified in hypnotherapy by the Hypnotherapist's Union Local 472. Angie is the author of "Weight Loss Epiphany: The Workbook" and "The Pretty & Smart Planner. You can find out more about Angie and how to schedule private sessions by calling (574) 658-4686.

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